Comments on: man in moms group?

By: Sara Fill

Sara Fill — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 02:38:21 +0000

I too am the "boss lady" of a mom's group out here in WA. We DO allow dads in our group but I suppose it's all personal preference. I was not allowed to join several mom's groups becuase I am a working mama, so I guess that's why my group is a little more open minded about things like this. It sucks when to want your kid to get a chance to play with other kids but you're not allowed in. I feel for the guy. If he wants to come to Spokane, he can be one of us!

By: crazysox@gmail.com

crazysox@gmail.com — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 17:28:14 +0000

Jodi- email me crazysox (at) gmail.com

By: Jodi

Jodi — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 06:08:43 +0000

I think your response was reasonable. SAHD might be mad now, but he'll get over it.
Sara so glad you found me. I'm guessing you found my blog through Keely's. Are you two in the MOMS' group together?
Your kiddos are precious. Two kids are wonderfully busy aren't they?
-Jodi (Allen) Howe

By: JaredB

JaredB — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 05:24:46 +0000

I think you were right to respond the way you did. Just because *he* may have been comfortable with the idea doesn't mean that all the moms in the group (current or future) would be, and he should accept that probability instead of trying to accuse the group of not being "open minded".

First, it is a *mom*'s group, not a stay-at-home-parent's group, so that should be reason enough. I think it was good of you to give him some other options that may fit better with what he's looking for.

Second, like you said, it's not a wide open group to begin with – it sounds like you have the "job" or responsibility of essentially screening potential new members for various reasons, one of them being whether the person might make the rest of the group uncomfortable. Sounds like you did exactly what you should have in that role.

By: crazysox

crazysox — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 05:23:51 +0000

"The — Moms Group offers moms a way to meet friendly local moms to talk about yourself, your kids, your life, & to have FUN!"

By: martha

martha — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 04:05:42 +0000

Well, to be fair, you should put a disclaimer that there are no guys allowed. No, Dan should not be able to join a women's gym, but I think those are dumb anyway. But, the creepy dad at the park hovering just to make new friends-which will most likely be moms- is way worse than just including him.

PS Why doesn't the comment thing remember me ever?

By: nstryker

nstryker — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 01:48:05 +0000

maybe you should change the name to "m.o.m.s.": menstruating, ovulating, mlactating support. that way dads know that you'll be talking about periods and nursing and occasionally having bra and panty tickle fights.

By: crazysox

crazysox — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 23:38:36 +0000

Should my husband be able to join the "all women's" gym?
Dan, the guy was married. He was just new to the area so his kids didn't have any friends to hang with yet. I did email him the list of the "preschool reading times."

By: dancameron

dancameron — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 22:04:21 +0000

I'm sure he said that just to get to you after his plan of using the MOMs group as a dating scene was rejected.

I disagree with Martha, he shouldn't have even been invited. I feel sorry if he can't find any friends but he could just go to the park anytime he wants and try to make friends that way.

By: martha

martha — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 20:20:03 +0000

What's the "2009" thing? I hate when people say stuff like that. Sometimes there are groups that are not "all inclusive" and that should be ok.